Quick thought:
I just Direct Messaged @TheDatingDiva on Twitter with information about a journalist looking to interview matchmakers.
She replied: “Thank you so much…if everyone in the world was as nice as people on Twitter the world would be an amazing place!!!”
And this got me thinking… are you as nice in the real world as you are online?
I know I put up a little more of a front in the real world. What is it about the computer that makes us feel safer? Are we that afraid of other people… in person?
I have ponder on this thought before. I think is that we let our guard down when we are in front of our computers. The physical is not on our mind so we can focus more on the inward. I find it so interesting how much depth and kindness there is within people. But once they are face to face, the guards come up. Sad…but true. I believe there is a way to retrain yourself to be more like you are behind a computer, in essence nicer as a human being, while being in front of people….it is all fear based….everyone is afraid of looking bad or getting hurt. It is all about looking good and avoid looking bad, this is a very human trait that we all have and must overcome in order to reach that nice guy or girl that lives deep inside of us.
Cheers
Eddie
I always believed that faceless communication helps rid oneself of their insecurities. On some level, even amongst the closest of friends, any social setting where you are physically interacting with others involves some degree of judgment. It is only natural to do so, for it are these judgments that help us decipher physical and audible cues to better communicate with others. Unfortunately, while that extra level of communication lends an an extra layer of understanding to a conversation, it may also trigger insecurities present in a social setting. On the computer, there are no visual or audible cues in which one can be judged, adding to the comfort level.
And who decides to talk to people online when they are pissed.
Good observation and insight…. keep ‘em coming,
Mike
My very first impression of the site was, where is the flash and jazzy imagery? The site was plain and unassuming. Being some-what of an artist my eye is drawn to design. Here everything was understated, even so, the very first topic quickly caught my attention.
Online kindness. I quickly realised that you were not about flash, you were about substance.
I must admit that I don’t fully read a lot of the items that I encounter on the internet. They would really have to be interesting. I was very intrigued by your title and bit by bit taken into a safe haven that I recognised, a place of familiarity that resides within me that somehow I seem to have forgotten. It was like going home again. A place that I needed to be, it just felt right.
I commend you for your thoughts and wisdom that you so freely share with the rest of us.
” Augustina, wisdom from thy lips flow like cool spring water that refreshes and nourishes the soul and makes one feel whole again “. ………JJK